the words we turn into masks

maybe you are not afraid of commitment,

but afraid of what you are going to miss.

and you’ve been calling it being picky

or something like that,

but maybe it’s not that at all.


and far too many options

treating people on dating apps like options at a dinner buffet

rather than people who might be worth getting to know for more than a three-hour period

so many opportunities that choosing isn’t necessary-

no commitment required.





my forever wish

for you to feel safe in this world,

enough that you can get out of bed each day

and give yourself to what needs you,

to who needs you.

i wish this for you.

and me, too.

to not feel so afraid.